My son came up to me and asked “why do you like your phone so much? Because you’re an adult?”
Made me feel terrible for looking at this damn thing so much and setting a bad example.
Also sad to realize that he’ll probably be doing the same unless we build options to turn off addictive functionality.
I need to do better.
Painful, but that sort of pure mirror kids can create is amazing
His words made me snap out of it for sure. And I will try to not use it at least in his presence as much.
Hard because nostr is so addicting!
It's time to ban social media. Return to pre-web 2.0 with websites, forums, no more influencers, no more Chinese or Silicon Valley companies with addictive algorithms that they promote to our children but keep theirs away from.
Prepare to cry. https://youtu.be/494Wr7On6bA?si=ay5mV_7KgArhOCrc
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Like a son who didnt spent so much time with the parents , can tell you . If you can spent more time with ur child, do it . The time spended together is priceless. I cant bring back the time. Ofc its just opinion , if you not agree its okey
After quitting facebook and x.. I've been on my phone less.
Then I got addicted to Nostr.
Need a re-write of the song "cats in the cradle" for cell phone use.
"My son had turned out just like me."
I use that as a touch stone to remind me to be present with my kid.
But it takes a self-aware person to see this and have a desire to change. 🫡💪👍
Gotta love the little truth tellers.
We all need Sir.
I have this as wallpaper, help me to put the phone down most of the time I see it lol
Kids are more aware than we know. The sad truth is that they are right. What’s so important about a phone that get most of our attention.
My kid was three when he said while I was watching my phone at the park “nobody is watching me”. They are excellent teachers if we listen to them
Subconsciously, young humans observe so they can fit in with the tribe. They will follow the patterns they see, even when they are undesirable patterns to us.
Sounds like a smart boy. Wonder where he got it from?
Ironically, algorithms is what enables us to use our phones *less*.
Serve the meaningful and important content right away rather than hunting for it
I find the opposite to be true. I tend to give up scrolling if I don’t see much or anything interesting. Interesting things just lead to more content consumption. TikTok is a prime example of this - makes you want to swipe forever.
Tiktok “endless” content because it is global.
Nostr very quickly ends because you basically have content from your friends, then friends of friends. And when you go beyond that, the content is increasingly irrelevant. There is no “global” on nostr.
The problem now is that I feel like I have to scroll everything I missed because I can’t find what is notable or worth reading otherwise. It’s a time sink!!
Nostr global is literally global unfiltered notes.
Tiktok used algorithms to refine what they show you. You don’t stick around on tiktok because the content shown to you is irrelevant, but because it is optimized based on what you like and what millions of others who fit your profile also looked at.
Nostr has no global. It’s just relays and the data that is posted to them. There is no data replication between relays other than users broadcasting to multiple relays.
It has nothing remotely like Tiktok global data. The closest thing is a huge relay like Primal, and that proves my point that their “global” feed is garbage that is irrelevant to me
Crazy, I know.
Im deprogramming myself right now. I only use nostr for social media now. And i dont read news. The rest is long format, pods and video. The absence of an addictive algorithm helps alot making me tune out from the screen.
With your kids, what you say doesn’t make much of a difference to how they turn out.
It’s what you do.
They become what they saw you do.
For a while, for about 15 years, you have to become the person you want them to be. They have to see you be that person before they can become that person.
I was a long way down the path before I realised this. Don’t normalise hours of silent screen time after dinner. Before you know it, they’re gone. You can shitpost when they’re at college.
My 3yo tells me to put the phone away when it’s play time.
Its addictive right?
Thinking of self hosting a digital assistant to find others ways to keep screens out of my face and another thing to host/capture my own data
Walking away from adtech internet has already been a huge win in the fight to reclaim time
Its not only the content but blue light actually releases dopamine independent of content. Apple and Google know this i believe they have patents on it. Similar to coke having caffeine (and once cocaine) in it, all the best and most successful products are addictive. Turn your screen to grey scale or red shift the screen, way less interesting. Also get out side, look at the morning sun. #drjackkruse
Look at the sun? 😏
uh. If you want to lose part of your vision, sure.
There is light sensors all over the body, even quite deep inside that are connected to the endocrine system. The ones in the eyes, and the pineal gland itself respond to light by releasing hormones that start the wake-up process.
The best trigger for it is sunlight, but it obviously shouldn't be direct. Second best is blue light, the most potent frequency happens to be the same one in blue LEDs. Which is why it should be criminal to use blue lights on devices that are likely to be near you when you should be sleeping.
Yes, early AM sun has almost no UV. You can look 10-15 degrees off if you like.
What's Kruse doing these days? I was absolutely fascinated by his idea of a virus causing rapid mutations in the early stages of the Dryas but after reading Apocalypse of Yajnavalkya I much prefer a simpler, theory.
The idea that 40,000 years ago a star blew up, blasted the earth with cosmic/x/gamma rays, sterilised Australia and Antarctica, and on the margins some humans who were not killed by it lost a few genes, namely ones involving melanin and the one that turns off lactose metabolism after infancy, among other things (and led to a dramatic increase in neural connectivity).
The idea that the HERV, being related to "leaky gut" - an intolerance for plant proteins that increased ingress of viral particles into the blood is quite interesting, there probably is something to it, since it's plain by the DNA we have a virus in our gene pool that no longer can reproduce.
But the white/milk mutation predates the HERV by a long time, and there is plenty of evidence pointing towards the idea that the diversity of humans now is far less than it was back then, and rather than the more mainstream theory that humans killed off neanderthals and erectus and others, that actually we were still able to breed with them and the survivorship bias kicks into the scientific analysis, not realising that DNA can be latent and still continue to be transmitted forward in time.
Anyhow, yeah, Andrew Huberman is a recently popular biohacker/optimal type guy, his specialisation is neurology, and it's really worth checking out some of the things he recommends, notably the physiological sigh.
Dr. Kruse is great and this theories and explanations of why things work the way they do are insanely complex. But like with most things that are true, the “why” is outside the comprehension of most of us, but the perceptions are simple.
More good light less bad.
Our modern lifestyle is a sin against our biology. Why 40% Americans now have a chronic disease. The wages of sin are death, applies both spiritually and physically.
I firmly believe the stuff about radio waves disrupting the endocrine clocks though.
That's why I connect my laptop via ethernet cables and the phone is over 10 metres away, and why I am pissed that I didn't keep my wired dual driver speakers instead of these ultra annoying bluetooth units, that constantly flip stereo channels and I have to remove and re-pair every time I change to windows to play games.
When I was young, I always thought the communications technologies of the future worked with photons and entanglement. But here we are, millimetre waves everywhere, some of them ionising oxygen in our blood. (20ghz, used in 5G).
Yep the science on the biological harm is overwhelming. Just shadow band, or suppressed.
Congress passed a law that make it illegal to regulate telecom tech on the basis of health.
I include RF in the definition of “light”.
Invisibly Rainbow is a good book on the subject
*Invisible Rainbow
I think that due to wavelength, it is impossible to easily produce antennae that receive "photons" but fundamentally you are correct. Photons are just electrons with shorter wavelengths, that interact only with nanometre sized objects, mainly molecules.
This also means that there should be a way to catch the joules from either and convert them to electricity and vice versa. Look at quantum dots. These are just tiny little bits of metal that catch and sling back specific wavelengths by their shape and the electrostatic lensing effect. Not only that, but I remember reading about other experiments that showed that you can construct nanoparticles out of one material, at the right size, they behave like another material, for example, I think they made aluminium nanoclusters behave like gold.
This is the kind of facts that make me quite certain that all matter, both radiation particles and matter particles, are only different in their number of monents of rotation. Radiative particles have 1 or 2 axes of spin, where matter has 3. The 3 way spin orbits itself, whereas the 1 and 2 way spins are passive along one axis. And that leads me to the key element of my physics hypothesis: that the SPACE is made of an incompressible, inert, constantly dividing substance, and that photon/electron particles are like surfers riding the wave of expansion, and that what we call light speed is actually that expansion pattern, and further, that these electron/photon particles are constantly orbiting, most of them paired, and undetectable due to their almost perfectly balanced charges, but regardless, push matter towards the mass centre via an effect similar to surface tension, an invisible cloud around matter that optimises to a sphere when two such clouds start to merge.
And that also means that if you can direct electrons to resonate at maximum frequency/minimum wavelength, they behave like balanced atomic particles, but are in constant motion, probably due to having 4 rotational vectors, and with this you can control the direction of the space expansion, ie, zero out your mass and travel at the speed of light. Teleportation is then just about capturing the waveform of an object and causing it to be carried across a singular thread of these fundamental space particles, with precisely the right "punch" that it appears instantaneously in a new position.
I'm sure that I'm going to be vindicated in this model. It's far simpler than the mainstream physics theories, it's pure relativistic, and still enables zero time of travel quantum effects via the incompressibility of space.
This resonates. My kid is getting closer to the age where he will say this to me.
Considering that we're heading towards singularity, you might soon be looking out from inside the screen, wondering whether it was ever any different. So what's "better"? And is it better, if it couldn't have been considered "better" 100 years back, or in the future - where the technology did not, or no longer exists?
In the pursuit of wisdom, there is no end. Every moment is an opportunity to grow, to refine your understanding, and to strengthen your character. Aspire to be a lifelong student of life itself.
using a smartphone or pulling it out in the presence of someone else is like pulling out a CRT television back in the 1990s, putting it on the table and starting to watch TV, in the presence of that person. Somehow, nobody would have done that in the 1990s but now it is considered normal. my first post on NOSTR, lol, lets see if this works. I am trying to figure out how to make a new posting.
