I took a break to sleep train my 7 month old three times in the last 3 months.
He might be our last. I can’t deny my wife that bittersweet joy.
A Vanguard study finds that jobs most exposed to AI are seeing faster job growth and higher wage gains than other occupations.
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Yeah bc those already high leverage jobs are getting even more leverage. Unbelievable productivity
Pacifier’s are an anti pattern. Give them to less than one year olds for something to do. Never use them as long term comfort.
Pull that shit out of your 2+ year old it is destroying their jaw, teeth, and speech.
The Avalon Q was worth every sat.
Home is heated entirely by firewood and miners now. Even turned a 3 season sunroom into 4, now my office.
Totally depraved
This is a modern heresy unfortunately. Yet also the oldest trick in the book. “Did God _really_ say that?”
5 months old, waking 3-4 times a night. Wife exclusively breastfeeds. I dropped the hammer on that little baby last night.
He moved into his room, the 3 yo boy moved out of the girls room in with him.
And so did I, for a few days anyway.
This is my 5th child to sleep train. I can literally do it in my sleep.
Wife is showing renewed energy, signs of life. We waited long enough.
Yeah he cried for 30 minutes while I progressively backed off my verbal re-assurances, sleeping in the unused top bunk that will be his someday.
Yeah the 3 year old slept right through all of it. He startled once to a new room confused, I laid with him back to sleep.
They won't even really remember their old sleeping habits in 3 days.
The first night is always the roughest but when you hold the line it's over before you know it and you have good sleepers. (as long as they are together)
As a Christian, I am called to share my wealth with neighbors in need.
She’s running the local 4-H meeting today while I’m at home with the youngest two.
Truly the jewel of my crown. (Proverbs 12:4)
#dadstr How has your wife brought Christ and you glory today?
If aiming to ease, there is wisdom in the advice to start with chickens, rabbits for some seasons, then maybe sheep once you’re ready to try a bigger thing.
Habits of housing maintenance, food/water, etc are crucial and a little different for each animal (but also don’t need to be fancy). Not hard or complex, but jobs to be done. Animals do tie you down until you figure out systems and friends that can help free you for a trip.
6 acres. Cut my teeth with a family dairy cow and three sheep and eventually cried uncle. We went too hard on the homestead life at first, pared back a ton last year and even more this year ( a summer with an infant ).
I think we know exactly how we can responsibly re-expand next season 😅
I totally get that. It was like that for a couple of days for me but I pushed through, now the novelty is over and all that’s left is camaraderie.
It’s probably catalyzed by how we have massively structured our lives around their open time-space though, so they aren’t anxious or rushed in much. (Rural homeschool)
They certainly aren’t starved for my attention , so I appear to have broken out past the wake of interruptions.
The olders really enjoy and respect the “this is a quiet working space” boundary. The youngers come and go and give me hugs, but I do have noise cancelling headphones for sure.
I also lowered my coffee intake to just one cup with food because I was so anxious and 2-3 black.
The biggest revelation for me here was that I had no choice but to make this work, given all other constraints I refuse to let go of for this season of life (lots of kids, homeschool, steady job, etc)
Exactly! All the necessary monkey work was automated, is just even more fun now.
Update on moving back home to work near kids:
The second grader can do math sitting next to the 5 month old.
Next to me.
Holy shit this is the exact answer to all of the dread we had about how to scale our homeschool. It was under my nose the whole time!
Many of the promises in the Bible are not just about the life to come, but are about this life now. Do the work.
I tell my children some form of this 👇 on a regularly basis.
Some of them are clearly slower to truly get it, as they repeatedly scoff at work too frequently. With patience and long-suffering I will not give up giving them lesson, gently or harshly at various times.
#dadstr #dadhacks
I got a tiny rural office building to get away from my homeschoolers several years ago. Coding means holding a ton of fragile context in my head and the little interruptions here and there were truly destructive.
However, I've recently started working from home again and I realized the job is completely different now. LLMs hold the fragile context, I just hold pointers to the architecture in my head. It's 100x easier to drop in and out of flow state.
So I'm thinking about moving the office back home.
The school-age kids get to do their work by daddy while he works.
It certainly eases the weight of my wife, the teacher, who is also exclusively nursing a baby (no bottles for us, that's a different thread). Her job will only get harder in the years to come.
I kind of can't believe I'd move back home.... my precious little space with the bookshelves and desk and vibe. My little work sanctum, my "territory".
Screw it. Give me the messy papers, the school books, the little faces, the break moments to teach basic math and science. I'm running back as fast as I can now that I realize it's possible now.
This homeschool is going to scale so well.
Is this dying to self and living #ToChristAlone in my journey?
#dadstr #dadstrong
Good luck! It sounds like you have a good process you’re going to follow.
My first was terrible as well. My first principle hypothesis is that it sucks to be alone (assuming you are giving them a room). Everything got 100x easier once I put all my kids in one room together, a nursery with boys and girls until they age out. Mega leverage there.
I've sleep trained all prior kids at 4-5 months old. This 5th baby smiles so much and I'm a completely different man with a lot more freedom... I don't have it in me yet. Might just bring him into bed for a few weeks. (Could totally change my mind in a week)
I'll do a note on sleep training if someone asks for it.
There's a lot of terrible advice in this thread. Follow me instead
It doesn’t. But the Lord provides. And it scales far better than you can imagine.
That man’s quiver is full of sharp arrows. Psalm 127
He lived in Christ, and his death is gain.
Philippians 1:21
je suis Charlie
Except I’m not, I’m a fuckin coward laying low compared to him.
Checking my nostr feeds after my first code review session on my new nostr:nprofile1qqswhhhf99z77pfg80s2c00z27rusxn2tzss7450n34krkwa2yadhtgpzfmhxue69uhkummkdasjumnpvahhjcgpzfmhxue69uhhqatjwpkx2urpvuhx2uce2cewr outside in the sun and…
I’m gonna go back outside now.
I might just be outside the rest of this reset.
I work in a 100M ARR majestic monolith daily and do not get this feeling. It’s all just subfolders and context management. In fact wonder if microservices _prevent_ LLM from getting big picture in many cases.
When I use nostr:nprofile1qqsth7fr42fyvpjl3rzqclvm7cwves8l8l8lqedgevhlfnamvgyg78spp4mhxue69uhkummn9ekx7mqpz3mhxue69uhhyetvv9ujuerpd46hxtnfdu9c2xcj it really feels like that
Look with 5 kids 9 and under homeschooled by mom, that means I am the school custodian. This is one of the greatest #wifehacks
There’s no other way but to love them and their messes. It’s a relatively short season of life. I’m certainly not going to give them away to other teachers or caregivers… or live in filth. So here’s how I scaled it:
1. Heavy duty grabber arm thing from home improvement store so I don’t have to bend over a thousand times
2. Speed run picking everything up with grabber and chucking it onto couch or table, one pile per room
3. Tell kids to process “sort pile”, this is psychologically far easier for them than picking up and sorting. Even the 3 year old can pull his toys out and put them in basket.
4. Headphones in + podcast/book on.
5. Bissel Zing vacuum the hardwood floors, far quicker than sweeping and better at corners. (Kids still working sort piles)
6. Once a week the Tineco vacuum/mop combo to clean the floors of grime, after a quick dribble of water on any odd spots to let them break up as I mop
The routine takes 20 minutes, is done every other day on average.
My oldest kids are eager to do the vacuuming now. I haven’t allowed that yet because I know they’ll miss crumbs that I don’t, but soon enough I’ll ease them into it.
#dadhacks
I chug a pint of 3 eggs and milk for breakfast most mornings. (I like milk) others prefer salt on the eggs… truly the texture is that of snot though LOL so shlonk == gulp quick is because it ain’t a sipper
Lol yeah maybe it was just incompetence at the FDA or something like that. Idk but I was infected by the stigma too, until I saw others (see bodybuilders) and proved it to myself otherwise
Raw eggs do not cause salmonella infections. This is a lie that you bought.
Raw eggs are in fact nutritious and easy on the digesting system
Put the dish cabinet right next to the dishwasher on the ground level.
Now even the littles can help unload dishes.
The simplest of #dadhacks
Heavier weights, smaller sets, but an extra set. I still can’t believe how enjoyable it becomes then and not just a chore.
“And did it cure your gay thoughts?”
As long as it’s not a buttsicle
I mean come on you should have put more time between these topics
I might anyway tbh. Mom died of colon cancer 10 years ago, so I care about ze colo
Spotted at the #MinnesotaStateFair
One lone orange koi in the tank with the river fish by the DNR building.
Nah, there’s always another generation you want to see. To live to see 4 is truly a gift from God.
Single/first kid demands so much, they have no siblings to play with. It gets a lot easier with more.
Ah there it is, now I’m getting a “haircut”.
Eldest is cleaning the school room. Next is doing the dishes from dinner.
I’m holding the baby and getting a hair message.
All praise #ToChristAlone for real
