😂 That story was just all over the place.

You're sometimes extremely helpful and generous, it's true, but you're sort of volatile. Part of chivalry is keeping your cool.

I enjoyed the book of satoshi

Now I await the book of mleku

One thing that gets lost in the whole discussion is

Which women are the most adamant that men are *universally* chivalrous?

1) The women everyone tends to be kind to, automatically. She's sweet, or cute, or elegant, of wise. She's well-liked. She's attractive. She's generous and talented. People like her.

2) The women who are as close to chivalrous as a woman can get, herself. She is measuring the men around her with the same stick, and being pleasantly surprised when some man ends up taller.

*She* would hold open the door for the little old ladies.

*She* would worry that her friends got home safe.

*She* would try to help someone, if she thought they weren't getting a fair shake.

*She* would be standing at the bottom of the tree, fretting over how to get the cat down.

*She* would want to intervene, if she saw someone being physically intimidated or threatened.

*She* would run into the burning house and try to drag out the frantic toddler trapped on the third floor.

Woman 1 and woman 2 are the same woman.

And that woman likes men who remind them of themselves, but bigger, smarter, faster, calmer, and less likely to be hobbled by whatever is currently going on in her belly or with her hormones.

A man who can be _even more her_, but only all of the best parts of her. All the parts that she likes best.

I don't know if you missed the fact that this was also my argument.

The focus on women -- particularly, if you are, or want to be, romantically involved with them -- is because women (correctly) assume that the way you treat them is a reflection of your overall character.

If you have a strong incentive to treat her well, but you can't help but be callous or indifferent, it's safe to assume that your behavior would be the same, or worse, toward everyone else. You literally couldn't even pretend to not be an asshole, for one evening, even though it might have gotten you closer to her.

And the higher her MMV (to use the crude term), the more harshly she will judge your behavior toward other people. She's smart, discerning, and far-seeing. That's one of the reasons you wanted to date her. That's one of the reasons her MMV is so high.

She knows she won't always be at the top of her game. She knows the baby might scream all night. She knows her disabled brother might need a place to stay, at some point. She knows she might be infertile or become chronically ill. She knows married life is full of surprises, many unpleasant. She knows.

She knows. And she's watching you.

Make sure she gets home safe, or GTFO.

Mencken? You mean...

"The allurement that women hold out to men is precisely the allurement that Cape Hatteras holds out to sailors: they are enormously dangerous and hence enormously fascinating."