For me, eating spaghetti, smoking a joint, and taking a hot bath (in that order)

pampering my Wife

I don’t relax (according to my interpretation of the word). Haven’t done so for probably three or more decades. To manage that I change pace, often. I do this by daily ish walks 45+ mins. A sporadic meditation practice and a pretty solid mindfulness routine. Earlier this year I had the closest thing to a holiday in 35 years, where I probably did relax in some way. We were away from the usual home routine long enough to get a taste. Hoping to do that again next year.

Getting a massage helps. Stretching and meditating helps. Good luck, it's really hard to relax 🫂

#Disney propaganda

I used to have this problem. For me it was both a mindset and also hormonal. I finally realized I had made it to my destination already. Goals are great, but maybe not for us. We will achieve as a default. Do not think about what you want to achieve because you already are. Get the sense you already have achieved. You have made it. *ahhhhh*

But then my hormones leveled out in my 40s and I am so chill now 😆

Warning: when you downshift into relaxation, you might worry it is depression. No, you just might be calm for once. Happily calm.

Bikes and books

You take a break from all the stuff ur good at…and just chill.

Look into breath work as a start

By not rushing or imposing deadlines on all my tasks. It's quite helpful.

I’ll relax when I’m absolutely dead.

Focus on the present (breath ie) instead on the thoughts.

One simple hack: exhale longer than you inhale. Test it yourself for 7+ minutes

journaling, walk into the nature or by the promenade, watch waves or watch a fire.

All of those have the element of self-hypnosis.

btw, when I say journaling, I am talking about unfiltered thoughts, anything your brain is busy about and how you feel! 🫂

Let me know which one works for you. ☺️