*sighs*
I think I'm a little off kilter this morning.
I just had a crazy idea:
Set a 4 year goal to be married with at least one kid by the next presidential election.
I genuinely have no clue if that's possible. The list of those who would volunteer for that is vanishingly small, and, this is such a wild goal (in my opinion) that I have a huge amount of doubt that it's even possible. 😅
#randomthoughts #goals #crazy #nuts #bonkers
When you least expect it, someone special will come into your life.
Are you setting a deadline on love ?
No. A goal is not a deadline.
As part of that goal, it means I have to do a lot of work on myself in order to be enticing enough to a woman to consider anything of this sort.
I understand the by the next presidential election was more why i said deadline not the goal on its own.
Self improvement is always a good thing, hope you wont pressure yourself too much where it becomes a negative
Yeah, that's the thing, right? You're a bit picky (not that that is a bad thing, but it limits your selection), which means you're aiming for women who are in a position to be REALLY picky.
The marriage market is anything, but even and balanced, right now.
And, if she's young-ish, Christian, pretty, and pleasant you'll probably have to get past her dad. Dads are a tough crowd.
That’s not a crazy goal. You just need to go to the places that have the type of woman you’re looking for.
There is no place for the type of woman I want. That's been part of the issue.
There has to be, if your expectations are realistic. nostr:npub1sd3wwlvl6f58yzs4ss90x07e4dwd7yl6h3n0pygpz9vqjcxd99aq90vwne and I met at church. What about gun range, BTC meetup group, online, via friends/coworkers, just to name a few.
Try the grocery store. If you like what she has in her cart, pay for her groceries, and take her home!
That's... Clever. I'm not at all bold enough to do that. And heck, I might get arrested for harassment where I currently am.
The library then.
I second this. Pretend like you need help picking out a steak.
I... Can't do that. I'm so bad at "acting/lying."
Then need help picking out a steak. 😆
Maybe, but, I never heave encountered a woman trying to decide between pieces of meat. 🤣
I think it's crazy that this is a mindset that exists. People used to just pair up relatively effortlessly.
The number of people I know that I think "How are you married with kids!?" Is definitely more than zero. That goes for both men and women and myself.
There's no trick to it really. Are you the best version of yourself? Are you even a good version? If not, then be honest with yourself and you'll know what you need to work on.
Maybe you could be a bit more outgoing. Maybe you could be a bit healthier, or a bit more interesting. Whatever you can handle in whatever increments you can handle it in.
And know that I'm rooting for you. I'm big on people achieving their goals and especially this particular one as I see it as the highest goal one csn hold.
I'm on your side and I believe in you. I know you can do it.
Fabricators with a thoughtful personality and a go get ‘em give me your best shot let’s make a masterpiece attitude is crack cocaine for lotsa female designers out there ser
(pardon me more making a bunch of assumptions btw)
Where are these women? LOL!
The real challenge, probably in a city working long hours tbh
Not a city, and right now, no, not long hours.
But... I don't know where the type of woman I would like to have as a companion would be.
Yes, and I meant her, she (the designer) is probably in a city working long hours
Yes, the larger challenge you stated, where and whom to meet? Generally this is proximity at the end of the day.
Probably not so many on nostr yet 😔
Oh and as an addition to what I said.
- Met my wife prior to 2019. Maybe in 2018?
- Reconnected in 2020 and started dating.
- Moved her into my place in 2021.
- Bought a home in 2021.
- Daughter born in 2022.
- Married, also in 2022.
Very doable, from someone who did it.
Good luck. Let me know if you figure out how to achieve it.
I have a similar goal.. build new house, make more babies, raise more animals.
If we collectively make it 4 years, i think i can make it happen.
Oh Beave, don't give up on love. As cringe as it is, you gotta put yourself out there. Go to the places where the ladies are even if you don't like to. It's not forever, it's for right now. We have a friend who paid for eHarmony and got hooked up with a nice girl, so maybe that's an option. Don't do this on hard mode, use any help you can get 🫂💜
It's not so much giving up on, there are just real, practical limits that I am running up against. Eventually, I'm going to have to give up on kids. Eventually, I'm going to have to give up on any semblance of "normal" living.
I always play on hard mode because I'm an idiot.
Legit know a guy who had TRIPLETS at 50-ish, with his second much younger wife. You can do it 👏👏👏
That's... A lot.
But I don't think I've got anything that could pull the kind of woman I want.
Pull that negative shit out by the roots and go find you a woman! Damnit!
And I don't want any woman, I want one that will be a good companion and not be a cause for compromising any of my core beliefs. I refuse to do that and that's why I am now where I am in life, since my ex went full nutter.
These are good qualities, but you can be flexible without compromising your core beliefs. Relationships are give and take. It sounds like you were a giver and ex was a taker and you got burned.
start with the first bit.
Ha ha, can relate.
-Fellow Hardmodian 
Is it time to Make America Married Again? MAGA + MAHA + MAMA
Hyperstition that shit into reality!
WTF does that even mean?
It’s like superstition, but even more. Don’t just carry around a rabbits foot, carry a rabbit. Don’t just throw a little salt over your shoulder, throw the whole shaker.
Hyperstition is akin to a self fulfilling prophecy. You make a prediction and believe in it so fully that you bring it into reality.
That's a good goal to seek after. People grow and change is some ways and stay the same in others. I hope you find someone that you can grow with. When you and your partner are committed to the marriage and work on communicating effectively together you can over come anything.
