Never say another person ruined your life.
By doing that you are submitting to them and putting them in a position of power over you.
Never relinquish power over any situation that affects your life.
Take accountability for everything.
Someone harmed you? It was your fault for allowing that person into your life.
Only when you think that way can you take back control of your life.
No one has the ability to ruin my life except me.
I alone am the master of my fate.
You posted this right when I needed to see it.
Grab life by the balls
And massage them a little
You might learn something
#haiku
He’s correct….Lots o folks find a varicocele that way🤔🤭😂
Just joking… I’ll show myself to the penalty box 🤦🏽♂️😖
Massage life's balls?
Invictus - William Earnest Henley
Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate,
I am the captain of my soul.
first time their fault
all subsequent times your fault
but what if Dr. William Stewart Halsted did actually ruin my life at one point?
Your fault.
dude is often credited with inventing the model for North American medical residency training…
but the entire time this jackass had a cheat code so that he could easily work 120h/wk…
all I got was coffee 
It's hard for some people to get this. But the truth is that I was standing there on this planet when the asteroid hit. I had to own the situation. Sure I was not quite detectable after the incident but instead of getting further bent out of shape I took my life force and searched for the basic building blocks and started over again. Hopefully I could retain some bit of wisdom from the last go. In a billing years (Earth around Sun time) I would get another chance.
💯
Be powerful. Its all your fault
This is called the just world fallacy you fucking retard
Stop using midwit terminology
Own it all.
Don't be a victim.
🔥
Own it….
Nietzsche would be proud of you.
This cute until you consider a scenario where there are more than a decade of false accusations and undeserved, unjustified attacks. When all of that happens without your knowledge and out of your control, then things suddenly aren't as straight-forward.
Design your life, or live the one they designed for you.
"I'm going to kill myself and ITS ALL YOUR FAULT!"
This was title of a book written by a seriously co-dependent person.
well said mate. great note
Once we shed being a victim we are free to create our own lives.
Extremely important to take responsibility for all actions, reactions and ramifications. Victimization is all too easy to fall for!
Stefan Molyneux talks about this a lot. Take 150% responsibility for your life and watch how things change. Solid advice!
Good shit right there. Easier said than done at times, but 100% the truth.
100%
Amen
YES, DONT LET ANYONE RUIN YOUR LIFE.
GROW SOME BALLS AND RUIN IT YOURSELF.
#YESTR
Always have always will
I’m with you nostr:npub18rdmnvrajwrp6srzpttz63934r58sh0sn9lwk3z57ykjzuzge4wqu6dhce me and me alone steers this ship!
Ahmen 
A good reminder🫡
Don’t blame others, or yourself. Learn feng shui and blame the furniture.
— Also Chinese proverb
Reminds me of Extreme Ownership. Great book
If you harmed your young child, would you tell them it’s their fault for allowing you into their life?
I did have a bad childhood and I have taken ownership over it. Everyone with a bad childhood has to do this eventually if they want to move on.
Agreed. All I’m saying is that ownership as an adult is different than “fault” of a child in certain contexts. Ex. You wouldn’t say it’s a toddler’s fault for allowing themselves to be sex trafficked.
This is extreme. Hard disagree.
Someone harmed you? It was not your fault.
Getting trapped in an abusive relationship was NOT YOUR FAULT. You do not need to take accountability for it.
Getting mugged, attacked, enduring harassment. It’s really not your fault.
Bad things happen all the time and they will happen to you in your life. It’s not your fault.
Take accountability for what you can but bad things happen to good people and it’s really not your fault.
We have completely different life philosophies Joe.
Yeah I’m all for stoicism and like to read the stoics but IMO the above sentiment takes you down a dark path. I was surprised in the comments I saw that no one had challenged your viewpoint
I'm not sure taking advice from someone who although might have good intentions doesn't actually have a deep understanding of how & why humans think & behave the way they do. It's all feel-good advice from Hodl, but that's all it is & sometimes he is wrong and from what I see he pushes back everytime someone challenges him on something he's posted. But as his wife says he is "intense" so he continues with his inspirational posts. It's all about his ego.
You have accountability and fault as symptoms. They aren’t.
THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT MY FRIEND STRUGGLING BADLY WITH ADDICTION RECENTLY TAUGHT ME - TAKE RADICAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR EVERY SINGLE THING THAT HAPPENS TO YOU, ITS THE ONLY WAY
There is some truth in what you say yes.
We are both the master of our fate and … we are in control of nothing, at the same time. We cannot even control our own body, when it gets sick, when it gets injured, when it ultimately drops us. Our thoughts come to us without a visa whether we invited them or not. Our emotions rise and fall to a rhythm we can influence but not control. Our memories stay with us without our control. Events happen we didn’t schedule on our New Year’s resolution list, people die we are close to. Events are not in our control.
All that we have the capacity to control is our own mind, and therefore the responses, decisions and actions that go with that.
That is why freedom in the mind is the ultimate self sovereignty.
I would say “It was your responsibility”. Has a different vibe to “it was your fault” which implies self-blame, and blame in any flavor does not help us to see things as they are.
The deepest wounds, even unfairly inflicted on you, are often when you have opened up and been overly generous with your time or capital.
Helps to exercise it though. Have the feelings about the person/experience. The right men’s group can be awesome for this. Be witnessed. Get support. Helps to let it go - organically.
Life is analog nothing comes as 0 & 1. From the view of probabilities I also agree here with nostr:npub1lr2zzf989mvf393y0tv39ara6a4vddkd6y87z784up9vl6ks6j3qtudl6a
That's a strong transition to the next level of accepting the current situation... without judgement, everything becomes free to be understood in that moment, later or never. How you interpret that experience is where the wealth of your growth will come.
