Ahh, are you Christian?

So the logic here is that not being submissive and obedient is inherently demonic? And is that for everyone or just women?

Libertarianism is just a set of values. The primary one being that the default is freedom. The default is that no one gets to tell another person how to live.

How can freedom be fetishized? What might be an example?

One thing that I see happening is a devaluing of community. People glamorizing living alone in some bunker somewhere. That isn't healthy. Humans are social creatures, we need community.

...can't tell if this is a real response or attempted trolling 🤔

But I would agree that trust is earned and responsibility is chosen. We should all endeavor to earn trust and encourage others to chose responsibility in their lives.

That's lovely, and if that's accurate, the word "dominance" isn't the right word.

The definition of "submit" is "to accept or yield to a superior force or to the authority or will of another person." This is never what we should want for those we claim to care for.

When we care about someone we support their full development and individuation.

Perhaps we could find some better words for what you describe. Maybe trust and responsibility are better words?

Humans have some really ugly, violent instincts. We also have some really wonderful, loving instincts. And we get to decide which ones we lean into.

I am thinking here of those who wish to "dominate" their spouse, or those who seek out a "submissive" or "obedient" spouse.

It’s so disheartening that I encounter so many people who publicly, proudly announce that they intentionally hold back the autonomy of the person they claim to care about the most in life.

When you truly love someone, you want freedom for them.

Be free, and support the freedom of others 🕊️✌️

Here is one of my favorite quotes along these lines.

Ya know these topics are interesting because it gets pretty existential pretty quickly. What do you think you are? What do you think our purpose is here?

Personally I see us as souls temporarily inhabiting human bodies. I am not a woman, I am a soul existing here very temporarily in a female body.

I find a part of the purpose of life (guessing here as claiming to know the purpose of life is wild hubris) to be personal development and individuation. Having a sub/dom relationship holds both parties back from taking on full responsibility for their life and in letting go of trying to control others. I see these arrangements as contrary to development and contrary to the purpose of life itself.

*as a failure of development

Ya burden would be a good word.

I see these kinds of arrangements and a failure of development and individuation. To become a fully actualized adult you have to take on responsibility for yourself and you have to realize that you don't control others. These arrangements hold us back from that.

"would you rather serve and submit to an honorable man that loves you unconditionally" no. I would not want that and they don't either, and that is the point here.

Trust is very appealing! it is so wonderful to have a partner that you can trust and rely on! And I think that's what people often mean.

The technical definition of submit is "accept or yield to a superior force or to the authority or will of another person." Certainly that is not healthy in a loving relationship.

yup. ...well, you get to consent once, and then that applies for the rest of your life.

Ya, I will decline that offer. I prefer to be free 🕊️

I have surrounded my self with Bitcoiners and libertarians. People who I thought I had values alignment with. but over the past ~3 years I've watched a lot of them change their values. ...it's been a sad few years for me.

It shatters their understanding of the world. It did for me too. It's very sad. but it is reality and we need to look it in the eye.

I prefer to keep my brain as unwashed as possible.

That's excellent! I have unfortunately hear this quite a lot. Especially in the past 3 years. I have people follow me around a room just to try to explain these things to me.

The official numbers on estimated rates of sexual assault of women generally come in at 1 in 5 or 1 in 4. Honest to god, I think this is wrong. I am quite convinced that the real numbers are probably 9 in 10.

For a long time we’ve been placing the shame of assault on the victim. That created an epic culture of silence, that finally is breaking. Every year I hear more and more stories from friends. Many stories from long ago, stories that I should have been told 20 yrs ago. Stories that fill you with rage. Stories that make you want to vomit. Stories that make you have to pull the car over and cry for a while. I don’t know if I know an American woman who hasn’t been violently sexually assaulted.

Say what you want about the me too movement, but I will forever be grateful for that cultural moment that broke the silence. As Gisèle Pelicot says, “shame must change sides”, and this gives me a bit of hope for my daughters.

I hear people say things like “a wife should be submissive”, “relationships can’t be 50/50, they have to be 51/49”, “the breadwinner/protector is the decision maker”, “the man is the leader", "women need love not respect" etc, etc. And then nearly in the same breath ask “why don’t women want to get married anymore?!?!”

Well ya know, when you are offering people servitude, and they have other options in life, you shouldn’t be surprised when your offer gets turned down. The human spirit wants to be free 🕊️

Ya I can see that. You can be empathetic but not be perceived as empathetic. it is good to develop solid enough social skills to be able to communicate empathy!

It's a skill that needs to be developed!

The problem isn’t with empathy, or anger, or any other feeling. The problem is with not having the skill set to process what you are feeling and use that to inform rather than lead your decision making.

Empathy, it’s the ability to deeply understand the experience of another. This is wildly important, the insight it gives you is immense, and when people lack empathy they become sociopaths, and then they are incapable of empathy they are psychopaths.

But can someone have too much empathy? Kinda, not really. Empathy is, sort of, it's complicated, an emotion, and emotions are simply messengers, they give you insight into yourself and the world around you. Emotions are amazing messengers and poor decision makers.

Another common emotion is anger. Anger is very important, it warns you when your boundaries are being violated, it’s a defensive emotion. Anger is always something you need to listen to, but not what should be making your decisions. It’s our job, as mature adults, to gather the information that we get from emotions, consider it, and then make a thoughtful decision on how to act.

Unless an emotion is so intense that it cripples you, I wouldn’t say that someone has too much of an emotion, but, you need to be able to process your emotions and use them to inform your decisions rather than to lead your decisions.

I think the next step in human evolution requires us to take a good long look in the mirror at our longing for belonging. It’s this deep need to to have a tribe, and intense fear of being removed from a tribe that causes the isims. Racism, sexism, nationalism, etc. and our inability to see the flaws of “our team” in politics all stem from this belonging instinct.

We’ll stay stuck in political mania, discrimination, and constant war, etc. until we learn to accept and deal directly with our deep need for belonging.

*some men

People will go around accusing a woman of “sleeping her way to the top” thinking that they are insulting that woman, but not realizing that they are insulting men in general.

The only way in which a woman can “sleep her way to the top” is if the majority of the men she works with can be bought in exchange for sex. This is the claim that most men don’t have standards or principals and can be easily duped by a woman in a push-up bra. It also places all the accountability for this situation on the woman and none on the men allegedly involved.

Kinda a bummer that in 2025 we are still using "gay" as a pejorative word.

Covenants!

I dug into covenant opcodes, and the answer was so clear to me. Why? Because I have a very clear idea of what I want Bitcoin to be. And this is always the root of the divide in these debates… differences in what we want Bitcoin to be.

I want Bitcoin to be better, global, money. I don’t want Bitcoin to do all the things. That’s how we wind up with hacks like the Bybit Ethereum debacle. I’m a huge fan of permissionless innovation. If you want to go make big bets on complex smart contracts, go for it! But please lets keep Bitcoin as simple, decentralized, permissionless money.

I am harshly opposed to any opcode that enables recursive covenants. If we enable this a week later we will see the beginning of the splitting of the Bitcoin ecosystem into gov approved coins and dirty bitcoins. We will be opening up our permissionless money to be turned into permissioned money by any entity who can coerce lager Bitcoin businesses. And if you don’t think your gov will do that, well what’s your least fav gov, political party, or mega corp? What might they do?

Bitcoin decentralizes power. Those in power seek more power.

If you disagree with me, please tell me why. But first, tell me what you think Bitcoin *should* be.

We have a big issue in our culture where we can’t seem to imagine an egalitarian interaction.

I tell people that my husband is not my leader and they then assume that means that I’m controlling him. I tell people that I’m not into being controlled in bed and they then assume that means I’m some sort of dominatrix. I tell people that I am not above others on some hierarchy and they then assume that I am unsuccessful.

Such a shame that we can’t envision cooperative, voluntary, peaceful interactions with others.

Really, is there a prettier place than Viejo San Juan?

I did a bunch of reading y'all. I'm team CTV.

Argue with me!

You don't have to be a product of your time.