Dont be afraid to have children.
They change your life, give it meaning and make it worth waking up in the morning.
It's the greatest thing you'll ever do.
So many people now wait till its too late, or think I'll "cramp my lifestyle", but the truth is, having kids surpasses every other thing you think gives your life value.
Do it, you'll love it :)
I have my first on the way in seven weeks, what are your top three tips?
Love, love and love.
Unconditionally.
Sleep when they sleep
Follow their lead for their needs and wants
Cherish every moment
it’s a major change. You’ll feel like you weren’t an adult before that, because you are no longer longer the most important person in your life. You are now secondary to the baby, because you’re the past and they are the future. make sure you have a lot of support (friends and family) and then you’ll have enough love and strength to give.
congrats on your upcoming baby!
do your best to tend to them quickly when they cry but when you're already doing what you need to do, like making a bottle or patting out their burp, and they're crying just remember that they're not trying to give you a hard time. they're having a hard time cuz they're brand new human beings trying to learn the ways of the world outside the womb.
fed is best, formula, pumping or directly nursing. if you do go for breastfeeding, keep in mind that it is a skill for both mother and baby. it is a struggle in the beginning and doesn't come naturally as one would expect. If you can, meet with a lactation consultant for help, especially in the early days.
when it comes to sleep for you and your partner, protect each other's sleep. make sure that both of you are getting at least one long stretch of sleep that's at least 4 hours. this means that one person will be completely responsible for the baby during that 4 hours. they'll need to know how to feed, change a diaper and soothe without the help of the other person.
drink lots of water. keep up the calories, especially protein.
good luck and enjoy the baby cuddles ❤️ feel free to reach out to me to talk about parenting
Don’t listen to mainstream, listen to your heart and instincts when it comes to children. Read The Continuum Concept by Jean Liedlof and enjoy your baby 🥰
Meal prep ahead of time if you can when it gets close to the due date. Dont be afraid to ask for help from family.
If you're going to a hospital for the birth stick to your core beliefs and birth plan. If you don't they will try to speed up everything to get you out as soon as possible. Such as oxytocin, c section etc. They will also come at you hard on vaccination, vitamin k, eye ointment. Know what you and your partner want going in so you aren't nervous to hold your ground and say no.
Enjoy time with your little one. They will bring you more happiness than you knew was possible. You got this! 🤙💪
Everyone says the time goes so fast. It doesn’t when you are in the middle of surviving as a new parent, it crawls. Don’t be tempted to wish it faster though. Enjoy every minute because time seems to start speeding up once the kid does.
Tip #1: Every kid is an experiment
Tip #2: Don’t get angry when they throw a tantrum; invest in shooting-level ear protection.
Tip #3: You’re the parent asking for tips; therefore, no matter how much you think you’re screwing them up, you’re not.
Show this to your wife:
"I’ve always wanted to be a Mama—that’s why it shocked me and when all I seemed to hear from so many people—even strangers was,
“just wait..”
wait until you have to wake up every hour
wait until they are screaming their head off
wait until you have no social life
wait until you get pooped on all the time
you’ll never shower
you’ll never go out with your husband again
you’ll never sleep again
Basically—your life is over kinda thing.
No encouragement. No talk of all the beautiful, wonderful parts about becoming a mother.
I wish people had told me this. So I’m sharing it with you—
Wait until you smell that sweet newborn smell
Wait you kiss their tiny head
Wait until you nuzzle your nose against theirs
Wait until they smile at your voice
Wait until it’s 2:35am and it’s just the two of you awake together while you nurse him
Wait until you see your husband hold your baby for the first time
Wait until _
I really don’t know why it always has to be the horrors that people share with new moms to be.
We know it’s going to change our lives forever, that we are going to lose sleep, that yes, it’s even going to be hard sometimes.
But can we just talk about the beautiful parts too?
Every day has different levels of tired, maybe that laundry didn’t get switched over when you wanted it to...but I’m learning that these days are short, and motherhood is beautiful. So being tired sometimes—it pales in comparison to everything else.
Look forward to the beautiful parts ♥️
Avoid all vaccination. Especially the ones that are given on the same day as birth (e.g. Hepatitis B). Hep B is transmitted via sodomy and IV drug use. It makes zero logical sense to give it to a newborn that hasn't started developing its immune system yet. You have to be vigilant about this as they'll do this when they take the baby away after birth without even telling you (you consent to this when you sign the forms when you're checked in).
An easy way to avoid this is to not let them take the baby after birth to "wash it". They also put silver nitrate drops into it's eyes. If you do a full STD test panel before birth, then this is unnecessary. The reason to avoid this is because it's extremely painful for the baby.
If you can't be convinced against vaccination, then at least delay them and space them out (don't do multiple injections on the same visit). Some refer to this as a "delayed schedule." Do due diligence on every single injection before you consent.
Also, c-sections are a great option. The scar is worth it.
Also, if you're the father, stay on the other side of the curtain. You can't unsee that, and it's not exactly sexy.
Kids only need one thing to grow in a healthy emotional environment: a mum and a dad who love each other unconditionally.
For being a great parent, do never forget that your priority is your wife / husband. Love her / him even more, and make sure you show it daily from now on. Your kid will be just fine, don’t worry 😉
most people aren't afraid of having children, they are busy trying to survive and build wealth, by the time they have a house and decent job they are much older and still struggling, most can't understand why they are struggling and think of they work harder and longer they will be able to afford children, eventually it hits them that they will never be able to afford children and by then they are tired or divorced or something,
majority are not afraid, they do want to build a family and good life.
If people keep waiting until their kids can have a "good life", our species would be gone very quickly. It's selfishness which is preventing new life from spawning
they are not waiting to have a good life, they are working towards achieving a good life so they can afford to give their children a good life,
there is a extreme tiny minority of people that are not having kids due to selfishness,
There is plenty of people around the world having lots of kids, there is no worry about humans disappearing
American men have this problem. If you’re interested in what’s going on with the birth rate, just look at the behavior of the white American male
I think everyone does. American, British, it's too common because of selfish ideologies over spiritual bonds. But let's not forget that a lot of women oftentimes aren't worth the ground they walk on
children are expensive and a bug responsibility. but it seems to me that white people (especially men) especially are overly fearful about it to an oppressive extent.
BullShit, the woman are just not wife material. The divorce courts are staffed by Bull Dykes. You would have to be a fool to marry in the USA today.
If you’re a coward in a bad relationship, then sure… it’s foolish
Birth rates are in decline all over the modern world now. Take a derivative of Italy 🇮🇹, Japan 🇯🇵, Korea 🇰🇷, et al.
It’s much deeper and systemic :
Kissinger Report NSSM 200 & NSDM 314
You aren't allowed to be a man in America. You cannot run your own house. If your wife gets upset for ANY reason they can leave and are rewarded for doing so by the court system.
You want more kids? Bring back no fault divorce. Then women might have an incentive to act right
I think the problem is that men in America hate women
Hey, I've got two 💪, and I love them more than anything.
Counter Take:
You know when someone talks so freely about having kids in the plural, that they come from means. 💸
Have money, have family and leftover to let your kids inherit - great ✔️
If not, in this economy, imagine working 2 jobs to get by yourself, but then you add more mouths to feed so you're enslaved forever.
Not to mention, it's 👉 super selfish to those kids👈, because they're forever enslaved to the system too -
✔️ Rising rent,
✔️ High taxes,
✔️ adulting,
✔️ dating in gender violence,
✔️ intolerance for neurodivergence and sexual prefs,
✔️ fascism and dying freedom of speech
✔️ nation state nightmares, CBDC threats
✔️ mortgage, forced community,
✔️ forced schooling,
✔️ forced childbirth,
✔️ shrinkflation price gouging,
✔️ a warming planet,
✔️ unending jobs,
✔️ shrinking economy and more.
You must really hate your children, and really love yourself if you don't think 100 times before having them. 💯
#ChildrenOfRefuge #ThinkTwice #EconomicRefuge #Adulting #Nostr #ExtremistOpinions
It’s meaningful
Biologically
Psychologically
And sociologically
I was your 42nd like! It's gonna be a great day!
Until you experience you child dying in its first days, it is hard to hear that having kids is in any way easy or always joyful. 😕
The fact that you care so much about their passing shows that they had tremendous meaning in your life, no matter how briefly.
Also "easy or always joyful" wasn't the claim.
I have to add “having *many* children”, whatever “many” means for the reader.
In “planned” families with just one or two kids you just have the feeling that parents think of their children as their right and property, and children are neither of both.
Children are a beautiful present and we parents are just their custodians until they embark on their own journeys
Right on. And in regards to being able to afford it, just trust the process. Kids will give you a new type of motivation that you never had before, which will make you better at making money.
And of course, God is going to be right by your side throughout. He's gonna help you figure it all out (as long as you trust in Him).
I'm actually the wealthiest I've ever been since having my boy. In all ways.
unless you are Saturn.
