We have this narrative that men only want young women and that they just aren’t attracted to older women and a man with options will always prefer a younger woman. But then we have the richest man in the world marrying a woman his age.

We have this narrative that women only want men that are built like comic book superheros and that a woman with options will always chose the man with the biggest biceps. But then we have the existence of Pete Davidson.

Maybe, people are actually pretty complex and attraction is an individual, and complex thing???

GM! #wolf #wolfstr #pow

GM nostr, let's hope our abusers get what they deserve, as we deserve better.

Last time we were in the States, we only ordered appetizers at restaurants, or we shared a meal.

Nobody?

*looks at his rotundity*

Really?

🤣🤣🤣

But yes. That's something that's kind of easy to do for most people.

Thank you. I will chew on this for a bit. I needed the extra pat on the shoulder and encouragement to keep on going.

It was more my thought about what I had been doing for my wife. Not seeing the improvements, feeling resentment that I was doing the extra xyz & was not seeing benefits. I am very much fine with an FLR as I enjoy the direction it has given my life. I reach out to you as someone to emulate. I appreciate the detailed response thank you. I may reach out once I have sat with this for the weekend. Thank you again

I did a thing. I flew to Mexico City to attend a FinTech conference and I joined a panel discussing digital assets... en espanol. I did public speaking in Spanish!

I was appropriately terrified. But I think it went okay. I managed to say what I wanted to say and people seemed to understand me!

Linux + NOSTR

What’s out there right now?

#asknostr

Your point is also correct. Some people are just plain simple players and jerks. But some, by the way they talk, respond and the energy we can feel they send out, are definitely still the abusers getting a kick out from the reaction of people.

It's profitable to play he victim & harvest the sympathy.

I find this victim position manipulative & disempowering (for the alleged victim).

I will never reinforce a person's victim story.

🫂

Okay, I’m officially frustrated. Should probably vlogstr about this.

Here I am — again — trying to publish my first long-form piece on Nostr after the last failed attempt weeks ago. This time on Primal, two browsers open… and still, I can’t upload my image, save a draft, or publish.

Why is it easier to move unbanked cash through the Emerald Triangle than to post a story here?

If it’s this hard for me, how will everyday people — the ones we say this tech is for — ever adopt it?

Millions are flowing into this space. Can we please make it work for storytellers, creatives, and regular humans… not just hardcore devs and protocol nerds?

Right now it feels like you’re building in a bubble, high-fiving over closed-loop tech stacks while the rest of us can’t even get a story posted. If this is truly for the world, then make it usable for the world.

#freedomtech #grownostr

awww

does this mean we're frens again?

^___^

I may be looking in towards selfishness or other dark motives. I wonder how you get over such acts without reciprocation. Is this something you have discussed with your wife? Do you count items like that or is this just one of the things you do for her, just as she does things for you, like getting junior ready for the day or to playdates on time.

When your outlook changed was it empty on the other side as the “relationship bucket filled back up?”

Enlighten me of your path

Get in you guys we're rebranding the Deep State

(To people who slap agents with Subway sandwiches)

I have the discipline of a toddler if there are no deadlines in studies 😂 but although over 1 year later, I have officially made it.

You're now talking to Juls - Associate CIPD in People Management ✅

the ego is not a toxic thing implicitly. it is simply the limited view and models a single person has. it is an anti-individualist perspective that is based on a mindset common among the ruling class that most people are just dirty animals to be herded and population controlled.

feminism is not by itself the threat. it's that, combined with hormone pills, eugenics propaganda against families, and the psychologically damaged people who have these things imposed on them and normalized.

feminism is bullshit though, it's not even an accurate label, because what it really means is "women and men are interchangeable" - which is ridiculous. treating people as symbols is dehumanizing. thinking in cliches and stereotypes leaves out all the individual differences. some women are more manly, some men are more womanly. what fits the physical individual is not a simple binary equation. but having said that, women's brains have different capacities to men, caused by hormones and the differences of the extra genes in the female chromasomes. so, a) they are different, b) they can be somewhat similar along various lines, and c) honor the gift of life by affirming the particular thing you are instead of your mind being locked into simplified caracatures of reality.

Yeah, they don't like women very much. Everyone thinks this is ideological, but some guys just don't like girls, and vice-versa, and they come up with ideologies to match that, but it's really just some weird, angry offshoot of sexual confusion, where they worship their own biological sex. Bros before hos and women making vagina-shaped ceramic ashtrays, and stuff.

And the rest of us are just in the middle, watching this ping-pong. Will the No Boys Allowed Club or the No Girls Allowed Club win this round?

This is beautiful. The fact that you’re sharing your growth and self-development journey so openly is an act of vulnerability in itself.

Admitting that your ego was winning battles, and that you tried to compensate for a lack of vulnerability in other ways, is huge. That takes courage.

I couldn't agree more, love can't be built without vulnerability, and that vulnerability being met with understanding.

I’m so glad you’ve found someone with whom you feel safe bringing your fears, happiness, sadness and excitement to the table. The body keeps the score — and some wounds can only be healed when you allow someone to stand beside you 💜

Thank you for sharing this.

From what I read you doing a great work together. How's the little one?

Although, he always has that profile, but I only notice it, if I'm relaxed and in a good mood. So, there's a prerequisite state, which takes hours to reach, and involves stuff like him washing the dishes, bringing me 🍷on the couch, and cuddling.

Or his being funny, while we're eating dinner. He's hilariously funny. And it's always unexpected because he's not much of a talker. So, he won't say anything for a while, and then he'll bust out with something so funny that I nearly fall off the chair from laughing so hard, and he just grins and goes back to cutting his schnitzel, like nothing even happened.

I guess that all sounds sorta lame. 😂

Women are difficult to understand on this subject because you actually kind of have to woo them all day, every day, forever, but you probably don't know you're doing it because they consider things like "he carried in the heavy grocery bags" or "that slanted grin" or "went to work, again, so that the rent is paid" or "it's so cute when the baby sleeps on his tummy" to be wooing. It's like a drip, drip, drip into a bucket and when it overflows, *then* she's like,

Damn, that eyebrow ridge, tho.

I should buy more armor. ⚔️

Also, easiest way to break group encryption is to get yourself invited to a group. If a group never deletes anything from its relays, then someone added much later can see eeeevvvveeerrryyyttthhhiiinnnnhgg.

Expiring/disappearing public messages on AUTH relays are the most useful for protecting most people's privacy, whether the message itself is encrypted or not.

That is because the biggest privacy problem most people (and especially **WOMEN!!!**) have is people digging up some shit they drunk-posted 9 months ago and sending it to their boss, or their ex Internet stalking their old posts to figure out where they live, so that they can poison their cat or climb in their window at night.

No sane woman likes the idea that every damn chat she has is forever and archived on 5000 relays, all over the globe. And it being a private group doesn't help as much as the event simply getting hard-deleted in a timely manner because the person who can cause them the most trouble might be in that group.

The nation state is not the primary enemy, it's the apex enemy. The primary enemy is closer to hand.

I LOVE RUNNING INTO FELLOW DIRU FANS! 💖 Kyo fangirl for life here.

GM! #powrina #pow #wolf #wolfstr

How long have you been on nostr?

I think this was the last of the boy child's birthday asks. They're silly and fun wizarding hat pigs in blankets. Puff pastry triangles (I cheated and bought crescent rolls) rolled around a sausage. Easy peasy and giggle worthy. #foodstr #harrypotter #happybirthdayjr #playwithyourfood #yesthatsalegogryffindorswordonmycounter