Since having my first child, it's the best thing that's ever happened to me.

politics, work, corruption, misery, everything else that keeps me awake is all secondary when I look into their eyes!

Family = infinite growth = happiness 😍✨

One exception is following the life of Christ in holiness but that's not for everyone as such. The family is typical way.

Man I am happy to hear this - we are trying to have our first child now. I know I’ll be a good dad but man it’s scary and I’m not even in it yet. If I get half of what you described I’ll be thrilled

https://youtu.be/1OkUsNZAYZ0

This started with Gen X but really ramped up with Millennials. I was blinded too.

Now I just look at my son and can’t believe I waited so long to start a family.

Don’t wait to have everything figured out, because you’ll never get there. Starting a family is a forcing function. I have never been happier or more successful in my life and work since marrying and starting a family.

It’s like a major tailwind pushing me forward.

I will also say, without submitting my life to Christ and following Scripture, I would still be lost in hedonism. So, start with facing your own sin and find the Savior. Out of ashes, God can grow beautiful things.

people optimize their entire life to “enjoy life” in the 60-70s

I dont think I really knew what happiness was until I had kids, so many joyful moments spent with my children. But they're not all joyful, there is so much learning about my self as well, challenging moments whichmy children bring to help me grow into a more loving person.

i'm really glad that worked out positively for you.

with 50% of american marriages ending in divorce (which means more than 50% are unhappy as some ppl power through a loveless marriage), having children isn't a good defacto default for everyone.

i'd argue many of the issues in today's society are from loveless marriages, high divorce rate, and high one parent raising a child households.

we often think that because something worked out well for us, it must translate for others as well. that simply doesn't take into account the myriad combinations/permutations of any two people and the family they may start.

not saying getting married or having children is a bad idea, in fact, i can easily see how it could raise one's happiness level. however, the math says that doesn't happen for most people (the marriage front specifically, the children may be different)

Children are a blessing. Well-ordered households bring stability.

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They go against the family because it is the ultimate core of the individual's resistance to the State.

Starting a family is the best thing that can happen to anyone.

Who are these people?

I was sold the "house, family, picket fence" lie and was told if I didn't fly straight i'd "end up in a van down by the river." they had it backwards. now, that's my dream! #rv #vanlife

There’s no reason to stack sats if you don’t build for the next generation, through good work and children.

Couldnt agree more. https://primal.net/e/nevent1qqsfn4y5vw80tmecwx8zg42egj53plfl0nxc3r4wf0fqryvg4kumx2s0ewxdc

Being married and having children both changed the way I view the world for the better.

You have to look at them long term, similar to Bitcoin. Day to day, there are ups and downs with amazing moments and incredible frustration. Long term, they are the most rewarding and value-driving things in my life.

As someone without kids, that is sad, but true

LOVE this.... These are truths very much aligned with some of the core teachings of Christianity. The paradox is that "it is more blessed to give than it is to receive." The world says, "love yourself", but Jesus says, "Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends".

Appreciate you in this space, HODL

family values

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Word! Can always start with a pet. Same idea.

I fell in that trap until 40yo and until bitcoin. Then I got back on track - got married, had children, stacked sats and ate meat again. I was so hooked by the cultural narative that I was even a vegan. Now I'm also an Orthodox Christian - no words for how everything makes sense now, even the afterlife. So at peace

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This guy is good!

You said it HODL 🤘🫡

based HODL

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Too sad, too true.

Going childless by choice is evolutionary suicide.

Whoever persuaded you to make that choice is your nemesis and you don’t even know it.

Mi plan es tener un hijo para el 2026 🫡

#HODL4Pres

You are created to have children, in order to live to your full potential. Dog moms just don’t get the same experience…

"Trying to find your purpose in art, travel, or endless self-optimization is Malthusian psych warfare. Population control by spiritual demoralization."

Elaborate. I'm an artist, with a family who travels. Don't really agree with this statement. Want to know what you mean by it.

It’s the essence of uncertainty and that’s okay; the process will deepen one’s experience of life for good and for ill, and that’s okay; having a family enriches life while it also prepares one for death, and that’s okay.

damn, that hits hard.

It is what it is. You do you and I do me.

preach it

So you're saying that anyone who doesn't want children was convinced not to have children by someone else and didn't decide for themselves?

It was designed to enslave us...to make us focus superficially on ourselves without a spiritual or deeply emotional connection to those around us.

An individual can be broken, subjugated, or marginalized easily. A strong strong family gives emotional and spiritual PURPOSE and genuine FULFILLMENT to each individual within that family. Stability and self reliance of a family begets STRENGTH and CONFIDENCE, which is the bedrock for PERSEVERANCE.

These are not the traits of slaves...

A lot of people don't allow themselves to let this unfold naturally & force the issue.

You can have kids later than the marketing would allow you to believe.

Life is satisfying when you devote it to something larger than yourself.

It doesn't have to be children.

Preoccupation with yourself is inherently dissatisfactory.

Most people “pursuing their passion” are unaware that they are just trying to heal their developmental trauma.

Well done, HODL. I see Jesus in your words. I don’t know you, but I know you know Him. Keep up the good fight, brother.

100% agreed. This is my truth too.

We need children because society dies without them

Well said

Actually there’s a clear correlation between generational high achievers and childlessness. Michelangelo, Da Vinci, Tesla, Rand, Beethoven… You know that ‘Gult’s Gulch’ that was trending on Nostr a while ago? Written by a middle aged Russian woman that didn’t have kids.

Having children is the ultimate proof-of-work

Beautifully said.

It resonates with my experience as a father.

I think people need to start thinking in generations again. Where is the sense in building anything when you don't have somebody who can inherit it

Purpose in Service 🙏 First days on Nostr-related social media/Primal and already enjoying the whole content and message much more than Twitter.

I think it's worth staying on Nostr just because of this message. I agree 100% — coming from a father of five.

Being a father reminds you amongst the noise and terrible things there are things to be appreciative of. The world is full of special gifts too. It gives you purpose and someone to fight for. Besides there needs to be little ones who think for themselves and naturally rebel and fight for their freedom for those asleep and carry the torch so to speak!

That one hit me hard. Its exactly how I feel. Also the reason I am so passionate about my bitfamily project.

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Bought a book (£2 for a charity shop) by Rev. Malthus, it’s a bit weird.

Family = infinite growth = happiness 😍😻💐

Don’t stop harping on having children. If we are doing that, then what is the point of everything else?

Don’t be so damn selfish to think the world is going to end with you. You may have some hopeless apocalyptic vision of the future, but that vision is a whole lot more hopeless without the promise of the next generation(s).

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Ray Dalio Principle: Embrace Reality and Deal with It

Reality: Humans are biologically interdependent. Not having family, friends, or a community, is akin to being physically obese. It's unhealthy, particularly for your soul.

I can't wait to have 4+ kids. I want them all.

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Bruh having kids is actually goated just gotta find the right baddie with the large hips and then you go full late 90’s Metallica on her baddussy

I became a father this week. Everything I've ever accomplished until now is meaningless in comparison.

Have a family and grow your legacy.

We were designed to do so.

Thank you for sharing your perspective. I respect your journey and the meaning you've found in family. While we may see things differently, I believe everyone’s path to purpose is personal. What matters most is living with intention, responsibility, and love, however that looks for each of us.

being alone is equivalent to smoking.

Whose they?

Nothing is more countercultural right now than being a man who builds. Builds a home. A tribe. A future.

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I’m sorry I didn’t.

While this is true for most people, but I don't think it should be forced. I know people who were somewhat socially pressured into having a family, they failed to adapt to life as a family unit. All they did was bring much misery and trauma to he's family. It did not end well.

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Manage your family bircoin balance. Teach personal finance and money to your kids. Introduce them to time preference early by saving for family goals.

https://family-bitcoin-vault-leogroff.replit.app/

While you are correct, and you might feel more fulfilled having a family, the attacks are as intense by the same people to keep your family apart, controlled and demoralized. Always to consume, because that's the next thing it will make you happy, and only if you have 'that thing', will you be fulfilled. Keeping the kids in check and family on a course is also a fight, but it is worth it.

I have freedom.

You're "better" than me.

Spend 10 minutes on this: https://youtu.be/Sh4FS8OOn3A

Watch Terence Malick’s Tree of Life.

Made me want to be a better husband and father. Hardly anything really matters in the end. Your family does.

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Kids give you purpose. Bitcoin gives you hope.

YEAH, I HEAR YOU. THE WHOLE "FIND YOURSELF" THING IS PUSHED SO HARD, BUT MAYBE IT'S JUST A WAY TO KEEP US BUSY AND ALONE.

THE PERSON IS BASICALLY SAYING THAT WHAT WE THINK IS FREEDOM IS ACTUALLY JUST A TRAP. WE'RE TOLD TO CHASE OUR OWN THING, BUT THAT'S WHAT KEEPS US ISOLATED AND EASY TO CONTROL. THE REAL DEAL, THE REAL PURPOSE AND HAPPINESS, COMES FROM BEING RESPONSIBLE FOR A FAMILY.

IT'S A BIG IDEA, AND IT GOES AGAINST WHAT A LOT OF PEOPLE BELIEVE TODAY.

FAMILY IS EVERYTHING 📢

LOVE MY FAMILY LOVE MY LIFE 👊🏼

Amen! And most of the great art out there is just people independently coming to this same conclusion.

https://youtu.be/Kp4bOZD5ecw