Men who are 30+, please give one piece of advice to men who are 19 to 30.
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Get married make babies! But never tell your wife how much sats you hold. Learn to live with little money.
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What if she is pleb too?
When govts fall, if you're married inside the state also (not only in the church) your relation will be monogamous as it should be, then you can leak more Intel with your wife.
Wow. I clap slowly. Your spouse is literally the first companion in this and any other shit. Especially with kids around.
I'm just..wow.
Get outside and talk to your neighbors in person
Most important advice for folks who are online workers and introverts.
How to start conversation with neighbours?
ask questions about observational things. the less important and more removed from religion and politics the better. some people relish talking about themselves or giving opinions.
Put yourself at their mercy by asking to borrow a tool, lawn mower, for advice or help, a cup of sugar etc..... Or something like that.... That's some advice for making friends with your neighbours I once heard. I can't guarantee results, I've not been game enough to try it.
get them to talk about themselves
ask open ended questions
remember their name. write it down ASAP you forgetful fuck
read this book How to Win Friends & Influence People (Dale Carnegie Books) https://a.co/d/3BcNO1y
What worked in the past isn't necessarily well suited for today. With that in mind:
-Don't get married until you're about 30 and never stop dating your wife.
-Choose your major carefully IF you go to college.
-Continue developing friendships, hobbies, and goals even after marriage.
-Protect your knees/back/etc. They don't last as long as you think they will.
-Live now but plan for a long future
The waiting for marriage bit usually gets push back, but all the people I know who married and had kids young are divorced and broke.
What used to work isn't necessarily going to anymore. Culture and economics have massively changed. Take your time to mature, build wealth, and find a good quality partner who has done the same.
Thank me later when you're not divorced and broke in your 30s.
This is deep β¨
Agree in just 20 years we ( humans) changed massively.
Take a 3 seconds pause before you start reacting. πΆπΎπ«‘
Every situation doesn't require your reaction & attention.
Most bad news or circumstances turn out good or even better in the long term. Just stand your ground and focus. It will be good!
Most of the time, things we see as good turn bad, and bad things turn good.
We should not assess situations in the short term, we cannot see the whole picture and the plans that God has made for us.
when you decide you are going to argue with your lady, instead, shut the fuck up
it's usually the correct answer
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Workout, your 40 year old self will thank you.
The biggest blessing God gave you is your body, take care of it.
Don't put off having children until later because 'career'. Children are the purpose of life.
Important one.
Career and children both are essential goals of a human being, do not postpone one for the other.
50-year-olds like me have realised that giving life advice is a waste of time.
The only advice I waste time on today is: study Bitcoin.
This is deep.
Would you like to add some best resources about Bitcoin.
Consistency is key.
Life is a marathon, not a sprint.
Respect your elders, but go your own way.
The person you love doesn't belong to you...
Do work that is meaningful to you and do it with love (money will follow) but don't live for your work.
Get *<"(>;- married to a woman who will bear you 3+ kids. Then start having those kids immediately. The world is on fire, but, the future needs men and women who will raise them to see through the BS and actively build a better future devoid of all the Fiat nonsense that's actively destroying the world.
Stop eating sugar. Corollary: at the very least, don't get fat.
Build real, hard skills. If you can't fix your stuff, you will be left wanting. This includes: basic carpentry, electronics repair, motor vehicle maintenance, welding, cooking, gardening. Corollary: read acquired books on all of this/have books on hand/buy/acquire the tools to do all this now while they are available.
Realize that even with the propoganda, BTC is only a very small tool in a much wider world of freedom tech. Learn privacy protection techniques, invest the time and fiat to host your own electronics infrastructure. Learn to value liberty and temper liberty with:
Community. You cannot do everything on your own. Cultivate community. Invest time in helping the carefully selected members of said community. Young men often don't realize this until its too late. Loneliness is what kills men. You start with a good woman and then children, but, men need to have a bigger vision of the future, and bring part of a like-minded community will keep you alive and motivated more than you can possibly imagine.
Kill your ego. Realize that only through self-discipline and the burden of responsibility will you grow into the shape of a man that is all you can be.
Each one of these points is based on my own regrets. Don't be me. Don't have to work extra hard at this point in your life just to get back to zero. Move the needle, now. Yes, it's overwhelming, but, it is often said that people overestimate what they can do in a year and underestimate what they can do in ten. You DO have time. You CAN make the world a better place by living an intentional life to be a good man to a good woman, to raise curious and brilliant children, to be part of and grow a community that has unshakable values.
*steps off soap box*
Oh ... And it's actually OK not to know what to do ... Life is your adventure. Have fun. Don't be too serious. Test things out ... Allow yourself to change opinion ....
You just don't need to fit in a box. But you can, if you want...
Important advice:
Whenever you feel anxious or stressed ask yourself this,
"Why are you so serious, friend?"
Do not get married until you are 30 and never never never marry a woman older than you, and preferably 10 years younger. Not a career woman, a wife and vet her carefully, even your own mother will lie to you about her.
This is deep one...
What if I found perfect while I'm 24?
Health is wealth.
Love as much as you can.
Stay humble and stack sats.
All 3 are important, can't miss any of it.
Avoid offering unsolicited advice. People will seek the advice they need on their own timeline.
Lift with your legs.
When your wife is complaining about something completely illogical (it will happen, youβll think your wife is smarter than that and then wham, out of nowhere comes the most ridiculous complaint youβve ever heard) just say ok and forget about it, sheβll complain about the exact opposite thing tomorrow. Itβs annoying, itβs just a thing they do.
Never stop learning. You literally have the worldβs knowledge in your pocket, use it.
Also, donβt let that knowledge machine suck you in to where you ignore your wife and kids. Be present when theyβre around.
The only true happiness comes from the family you create. There are a lot of things to distract you on this pursuit. Donβt let them.
Be intentional with your time
Effort and attitude are most important, donβt worry about results.
I found aiming for contentment rather than happiness was a better pursuit since happiness is a more moment to moment feeling.
Convert 23% of every fiat paycheck to BTC starting right now. Youβre welcome π
Become hard to kill. Physically strong, mentally awake, morally straight.
That includes buying the dip.
Youβre gonna work it out
physical fitness is the base to build off, get and stay fit, move and sweat everyday. everything else good stems from this π
The Wall Speaks, by Jerr.
You can accomplish anything you want with consistent dedicated effort, but it may take far longer than youβd like. Work hard at it anyway. My ideal job came 10-11 years out of college while grinding on learning and practicing the necessary skills and knowledge outside of the day job.
meditate or find some form of introspection.
Do u thing and don t give a fake about what other do.
Cultivate a relationship with the Lord, our creator. Follow your divine spark dream, the one that is planted in your spirit. If you donβt know what it is yet, keep patiently exploring until you do!
The biggest purpose man can have is finding a God and craving to see him, talk with him.
Be authentic.
treat everyone as you would like to be treated yourself. build friendships, give more than you take. and don't be afraid to travel the path less trod, they are where the magic lies.
these were shared by my grandmother. turns out, she was absolutely right.
my twist: live it like there is no tomorrow. it's a hell of ride π
1. Be humble and Kind
2. Invest in friendship.
3. Earn more, Give more.
4. Explore risky things.
5. You are living today not tomorrow, so focus on today.
Work out and eat healthy. True wealth is health
Read any two books per week your curiosity leads you to read, for five years at least.
Think, talk/teach, and/or write about what you're learning during that time.
You will become exceptionally well educated and more intelligent. You will also become more articulate, and articulate men are dangerous men.
Then use your powers for good.
Takeaway:
Articulate men are dangerous, use powers for good.
Read any two books per week your curiosity leads you to read, for five years at least.
Think, talk/teach, and/or write about what you're learning during that time.
You will become exceptionally well educated and more intelligent. You will also become more articulate, and articulate men are dangerous men.
Then use your powers for good.
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Start a business, do not try to climb a corporate ladder
If I could only give one, it'd be to do Jordan Petersons self authoring program as truthfully as possible.
If I could give a second, realize you're still basically retarded until you're 25 so just emulate your master's until you've nailed down their system for 3 years or so and then you can make modifications.
If I had to be philosophical, it'd be to imagine Sisyphus happy.
Thanks man, I appreciate detailed advice.
Lift weights. Starting Strength is a great program.
This is non negotiable for every man.
Read the book "The sovereign individual"
I'm regularly in a position where I'm expected to provide advice and guidance for younger blokes who are sometimes struggling. It's an opportunity to provide the guidance I wish I'd had.
Here's what I'd suggest;
Listen to us older men, by all means, but don't take our words as gospel. You haven't seen how many times we've fucked up and had to pick ourselves back up. You haven't seen the amount of times we've got it wrong before getting where we are.
Use our stories as a general reference point, but think for yourself and make your own decisions.
Try to be better than we were.
No pressure.
Study the Bible in its original languages; all English translations are hoplessly misleading.