It was a pontoon boat. A very middle class Midwestern experience. I had a great time.

Primal requires KYC?

My internal experience is a bit more chill, https://youtu.be/zTy-T8jb094

sounds exhausting! lol

How do I activate my primal wallet? 🤔

You ever hear a song that just feels like your internal experience?

Which song was it?

I know these are difficult topics, but you're attacking the wrong person here.

I know near nothing about your life and have made no assumptions about it.

I am seeking to understand the hate and anger directed at women that I am seeing in the world.

What’s an L402 token?

It’s an HMAC-signed macaroon + a Lightning invoice preimage = proof of paid to access a service. No passwords. No accounts. Just sats.

And here is a pretty graphic that breaks it down! 👇

https://blossom.primal.net/4567475d84742b1881d98554425f776fc9412e613564481399d54fae3bdd6482.mp4

Death is certainly not the worst thing that can happen to you!!! But let's roll with this.

So your position here is that men have it worse because of the male suicide rate?

But we did get a bit off course here, why would the male suicide rate lead to there being so many men that are angry at women? Do those men perceive their issue to be the fault of women?

So you don't believe in triage? Some wounds are worse than others.

Me too! lol

Attacking someone’s self concept is, on an existential level, attempted murder. And people tend to react accordingly.

I can hook my LND node up to Primal using Nostr Wallet connect? ...not sure I want to do that 🤔

Thanks sis 😉

Do you believe in triage?

People being violently attacked is a more pressing issue than people being pressured into bad jobs. But certainly all of these things matter.

I had alby, can't remember why I had to leave it.

O, that's a thing?

Okay I have to go fix my zaps, but it's going to be annoying. I don't really have a LN mobile wallet, I'm always in front of my computer so I just always use my LND node.

What wallets are easy to connect to Primal for zaps?

What's the difference between "oppression Olympics" and triage?

I don’t understand why there are so many men that are angry at women.

The angry women I get. I’m not justifying it or defending it, but I understand how it happens. The vast majority of the women I know have been violently assaulted, groped, harassed, graped, etc. and while diving into collectivism is never the answer, I can understand how those experiences would result in a general anger at men.

And yes there are subcultures where it is very popular to talk shit about men in general and that should cause some anger. But I would think being physically assaulted would appropriately cause a much higher level of anger, ya? But that's not what I'm seeing.

So what happened to these dudes? Why are they so angry?

When you're from Chicago you develop a habit of attempting to cram as much as possible into a summer, which probably isn’t a great idea, but by that measure, I'm doing pretty well this year!

So far I got to day drink on a boat on a Midwestern lake for the 4th whilst wearing an American flag cowboy hat #murica 🇺🇸🎇, went to a Renaissance faire, took my kids hiking through the mountains in Banff national park ⛰️🇨🇦, caught some sun at Oak St beach ☀️🌆, and drank and dined with all kinds of friends and family 🫶

"try to let go of the religious guilt that you are saddling yourself with." is this about you? Is it directed at me? I ask because I didn't directly mention religious guilt in my post but quite a lot of it was installed in the back of my head when I was young and I'm still trying to remove it. I'm curious if that came through in my post.

I once heard someone say “god is the blanket that we throw over the mystery of the universe” and that really stuck. Yes, we don’t, we can’t, understand the universe, but we need some way to process it, some way to deal with the uncontrollable nature of it, and so we call it ‘god’.

I read a book on happiness once that told a story about a young couple who had lost a child. They were religious and took great comfort in the idea that this was “all a part of god’s plan”. I have very mixed feelings about that. We can examine the seeming cruelty of ‘god’ in that situation, but we can also appreciate that they found a way to come to grips with the lack of safety in the world, and the uncontrollable nature of our universe.

‘God’, or religion, really does give a lot of peace of mind to a lot of people in crisis. The concept is a hack for learning to "let go." But there are down sides. No one wants to be a passenger in car when the driver says “Jesus take the wheel!”

And this is just such a constant wrestling match in my head. How do you be a responsible person, how do you keep planning for the future while knowing, while holding the knowledge that you live in a universe without safety? A universe that you can’t control, where tragedy is always possible. How the fuck do you do that?!?!

I do have some idea. I know that planning is entirely necessary in this life, and so you gotta keep doing it. And also, you have to hold the reality that there is some percentage, some amount of the situation that is, from our perspective, totally random and uncontrollable. I am now capable of intellectually acknowledging that, and I’ve been learning to decouple tragedy with shame or guilt, or even failure, in my thought processes. But I haven’t found a way to emotionally hold this reality.

Ideas?

A made a whole meme to describe my thoughts on hierarchy!

Now we tend to think of the world as one giant hierarchy, which is damaging and wildly inaccurate. We do have some hierarchies and I think we would do better if we made those structures smaller... as in more smaller hierarchies rather than a few big ones. And also the concept isn't that accurate. When you zoom out a bit you can see that it's more of a mesh network of hierarchies. Someone who is at the 'top' of one, is at the 'bottom' of another.

We think of the world like this...

When actually it is like this...

O I get what you are saying!

In my mind patriarchy = a world where men make most of the decisions. and matriarchy = a world where women make most of the decisions.

I don't want the men in my life to be pushed out of decision making. That's not fair to them. And the men I know aren't the ones abusing girls, etc.

I think what we need to get rid of is our worship of hierarchies. That tends to go hand in hand with patriarchy and I think it enables a lot of the abuse and war.

O you thought all hell broke loose in our conversation?

...are you new to the internet? 🤪

Saying 'no thanks' isn't hell breaking loose. This is a very calm reasonable convo for any setting really.

Okay.

...when did all hell break loose?

well of course.

Shitting on patriarchy is not support for matriarchy. Any society "lead" by half the population while the other half is suppressed is by definition horrible.

There really isn’t such a thing as ‘masculinity’ or ‘femininity’, there is only biology and how we manage it.

A ‘good man’ or a ‘good woman’ is simply someone who is doing a good job managing the benefits and burdens of their biology.

I think in general we would agree about language and the impact of certain words. Indeed Tate and others in that crew have really tarnished the word ‘masculinity’ just as other angry people on social media have tarnished the word ‘feminism’.

This is why when we use these words we need to be careful to know our audience or to define them clearly. Below are my definitions.

Feminist: Someone who wants to achieve a world built for and lead by women just as much as it is built for and lead by men.

Masculinity: There really isn’t such a thing as ‘masculinity’ or ‘femininity’, there is only biology and how we manage it. A ‘good man’ or a ‘good woman’ is simply someone who is doing a good job managing the benefits and burdens of their biology. So for men, who are generally physically bigger and stronger, and who don’t get pregnant, managing that well means things like… protecting those physically weaker, not walking away from a pregnancy they caused even though they could, etc.

“I see you writing and you seem to be trying to express an idea that women should be women” that was not my intent. I’m curious how I gave you this impression.

Well, I'm going to regret this, but um, who is that?

I have a hypotheses; we tend to equate violence with leadership. So when we see men in the armies, we assume that means men were the leaders. Which is in part true. No doubt in a world run by violence the most violent will rule. But why do we assume that a civilization has to be run by violence?

I think most of us were raised with the idea that patriarchy was the way in which the world always has been. But the more we look at humanity, certainly the more I learn, the more we see that that isn't the case. Patriarchy does not seem to be the norm in hunter gatherer tribes, and there is a lot of evidence to suggest that it also wasn't a norm in many early civilizations.

Note: matrilocal does not imply matriarchy, but it does signal a likely lack of patriarchy. There is a lot of reason to believe early civilizations like Çatalhöyük, the Indus Valley civilization, the Minoan civilization, etc. were pretty egalitarian.

Great!

You know I gave an appropriate explanation. More 'cash for the internet' and less UTXO's and HTLC's.

I just got off the phone with my 93 yr old grandma. She called asking me to explain Bitcoin to her. ...top signal?

I typed it all up here! https://primal.net/e/nevent1qqsp3vfkcsdveggeuz3djyuk7nlqhu6rnjd3s6d6lxm8hk8jhdrulaq488w55

The single family home, stay at some Mother set up is an anomaly for humanity. It's unnatural, generally not very healthy, and serves to hold women back from being full participants in the world.

This does not mean that I think anyone who is or has done this is a bad person. Not at all. Quite a lot of people have chosen this because it was a solution that matched the logistics of the time and place there were living. I chose this setup for that reason for years.

No doubt for some people this is an optimal situation. But now with more education and perspective, I can see that for most people, the world would be a better more healthy place if we changed the logistics that make this such a prominent setup.

Ya know if you spend your day Tweeting about what a great person you are, it's probably not true.

The best humans I know tend to describe themselves as assholes.

It's when we moved away from matrilineage that the concepts of virginity and monogamy became important.